Long distance relationship Tips?

been there, done that. eventually one of you will lose interest.

Keep in touch but plan to reengage when you get back. Right now you have nothing.

Teehee – I met my current boyfriend while studying abroad winter break.

We are 6hrs apart by plane, with roundtrips ranging from 4-600 dollars.

First off it’s possible, but to make it work I buy a helluva lotta phone cards. Make sure you find one that gives you the most bang for your buck. Or work out a plan with your cellphone provider- OR make good friends with a person in your group that has free international calling (satellite phone)!!

Try to always have something interesting to talk about even if you think its sorta stupid it’s better than…soo….how was your day??…good….how was your day…good etc…

The philosophy that me and my boyfriend go by is best summed up by our frequent question to one another: “how do I know that you’re telling me the truth???” —> “Because you have no other choice”

crazy eh? But hey – it’s working out for me…

So GOOD LUCK!

Does she use instant messenger? It is really easy to keep in touch with people over messenger. I studied abroad in Europe and was surprised to find that there are internet cafes all over the place. You can sign into AIM express anywhere you go and keep in touch with her. You could also email or call her.

I don’t know how long your study abroad program is but I’m guessing it is a year at the most. That really isn’t that long in the whole scheme of things. Although, it is possible that you or her may lose interest by the time you return, it is unlikely to happen if you both really like each other. If you both are really interested in each other, I bet you will pick up right where left off when you return.

Don’t let anyone tell you it can’t work. My husband and I were apart for 2 years before we could get married, and though it was hard, we are stronger for it now.

Don’t rely too much on IMs or emails. Even though they might be faster (and cheaper) than letters and phone calls, they don’t have the same connection. Don’t make promises you can’t keep like “I’ll call every day! I’ll write to you twice a week!” That isn’t going to happen, and it’ll just cause bickering. Plus, if she’s still only a POSSIBLE love interest, that’s coming across a bit strong. But writing letters is not only sweet and romantic, but it’s something she can keep and pull out again whenever she misses you. Plus, you can learn A LOT more from someone’s handwritten letters than from an email. Studying abroad will be fun and busy and exciting, but take the time to write to someone about it. Plus, when you get home, you can relive the experience (the goods and the bads) with her by rereading your letters-also pretty darn romantic.

Buy her a beautiful stationery set and nice pens, give them to her and ask if she’ll write to you.

Also, be sure to take pictures of yourself while you’re studying abroad. Friends don’t really want to see photos of things they could see on a postcard if you’re not in them, and years down the road, you won’t either.

I have been there. Email, regular mail (yes it still works), phone calls and reassurance before it is needed. My husband and I were apart the first two years we were married while he was in the military. Always keep them in the loop with what is going on in your life. Always let them know what they mean to you and passionate love letters and emails can do wonders.

Above all believe in the power of love.

I don’t think they work. It might appear that you stay connected with webcams and email, but one or the other of you will be dating someone else. “A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.”

It doesn’t sound like you are in a relationship with her yet (you say “a friend and a possible love interest”). Do not try to get into one at this time. You will not know how faithful she is and either you or her may suffer from loneliness anxiety. I do not think you will be abroad for many years, so my recommendation would be to stay a friend to her. Send her letters and postcards (don’t just use IM or email, it isn’t anything physical). Send her flowers once in a while. But don’t put daily effort or concern into it. If she has the same feelings back at you, you will know. And if she does, then, and only then, would I pursue a relationship. But keep it platonic for now, trust me. If you start something with her now, you will be in for a heap of pain when you return and find out that all that time and effort were for nothing.

It can work…try this…call …write….and every couple of weeks or so , send a LITTLE gift in the mail (music…..dried flower…..small candy…..post cards…..pictures…….key chain…do dads……..) you get the idea….but it can be done……just keep it interesting….if it’s to be ….it will be……..give it a try…what have you got to lose if you try.

Just keep good communication with e-mails. this might even give you a chance to know her better